Did you ever accidentally run across an ex or an ex's new woman online? I did tonight. It's Facebook's fault. I noticed a bunch of my high school friends had become a fan of a certain company. So I clicked on the link because I had my suspicions about who was running the company.
Yup. It was her. My high school ex-boyfriend's wife.
It was kind of funny, actually. She and I have met before, and she hates me. She actually broke up with him once because she found out he visited me at work for 3 minutes one day. Why such a violent reaction, you ask? It wasn't as if I was trying to get him back. (Definitely not!!!! Blech, that relationship lasted 2 years too long!) But you see, Wife is rather...rotund...and Ex-girlfriend, well, she's trying out to be an NFL cheerleader soon. So you can imagine the body image issues that this must have spurred. Plus when Wife met Ex-girlfriend, Ex-girlfriend was wearing a nearly see through shirt and a tiny mini skirt and four inch heels.
So yeah. Wife hates Ex-girlfriend. I actually wasn't the only friend of his she ran off after they got together. She didn't like to share.
I won't get into it, actually. It's a very very very long story. But they seem happy now, and that's good. Because I honestly didn't think the marriage would last 2 months. Did I mention it took them two tries to actually get married? Now that's a funny story. I think theirs is the only wedding where people probably tried to stand up and scream "DON'T DO IT!!!" When the minster asked anyone to "speak now or forever hold their peace."
The part that made me laugh tonight, is when I was checking out her website, she had a cute little note on it that said "even if you just visit my website, drop me a note, I'd love to hear from you!"
Oh really? Would you really like to hear from your husband's high school girlfriend of two years whom you hate?
I think not.
Anyway, she had a blog. So I clicked on it to read it. I probably shouldn't have. It kind of pissed me off.
Let me preface this by saying, I do not have feelings for her husband. I moved on years ago. In fact, I moved on while I was still dating him. Which rehashes my statement before when I said the relationship lasted two years too long. If I went back, I would never have dated him. He and I were so much better off as friends. We make great friends, actually, which we can't be anymore, because we can only spend a few hours together before we start getting mean and trying to claw each other's eyes out.
I think our relationship left some hard feelings. Do you? I haven't seen him in a couple years. Since he got back together with her, actually. They had broken up and he had come crawling back to all his friends. So I tried to be friends with him. We both tried to be friends, for about two months. At first it went great. But then our old issues started creeping up and...things went south pretty fast. And I just wanted to punch him in the face all the time because he was being such an ass hole!! Then, he got back together with Wife and of course she cut us all off again (well, almost all of us).
The thing was, I really, really, really loved his family and our friends. I liked his family more than him. I freely admitted this while we were dating. I used to go over to his house just to hang out with his parents and his sister. Our friends were awesome. We had a blast with them.
So when I was reading Wife's blog, it was literally like she had taken my life with him, and just inserted herself into my role. It was creepy, actually. His family, his sister, our friends, his cats...all about her, where I used to be. I'd never really thought about it before. Probably because the years I was still in the mix when she was around, everyone hated her because she was a psycho. His family told me freely while they were dating, that they wished I was still dating him because she was so awful and I was so wonderful. Awwww.... you see why I love them!
So I guess I'm not used to them liking her, and it was a big shock to me to read her blog and find her just assuming the role of daughter in law. I kinda felt like they betrayed me. I thought I was the favorite! Isn't it all about me??? :) But really, I felt like she'd taken over my old life. Maybe this is because I was forced to move away from Wood-hood so it's kind of a sore spot.
I don't really miss them. I do sometimes, when I go home to Wood-hood and drive past their house, I'd like to visit sometimes and I know I could, if I wanted to. But I feel like it's weird for me to be in their lives now. Especially now that they apparently like Her. They probably don't even miss me. I have a new family now, and I love almost all of them :P haha. You know the weirder thing is, I'm still friends with his sister and I actually took Ross to a party at their house once? Yeah, Ross has met my ex's family and been to his house. Bizarre. My ex was not there. I was a little disappointed because 1. I actually think they'd get along really well. But that's because Ross can make friends with a rock and my ex is kind of like that too and 2. I wanted him to be jealous of how sexy Ross is :) Cause let's just face it, Ross is just hotter and sexier and more of a man then my ex will ever be! Which is why he's my ex, right? But I can't say I ever thought that my ex was hot or sexy. He was cute and he made me laugh. So you see a fatal flaw in our relationship. I was never attracted to him. Sometimes, when he kissed me, I wanted to vomit.
Yeah, and I dated him for almost two years. Sometimes, I get stuck in a rut. I think halfway through we both knew it was so over, but for some reason we were just too damn stubborn to admit it! I wonder if we would have never dated, if we'd still be friends now.
I wonder if we'll ever be friends again. All four of us. The Twin Cities is not that big. We do some of the same activities. I find it probable that one day we could run into them at a Twins game, at a restaurant, anywhere in the east side of St. Paul. How bizarre would that be? If we do, I'm kinda glad I never told him he made me nauseous. I almost did, at a party once. But I held my tongue. I figured one day, I would be happy I didn't tell him. That day has not arrived yet. I'll let you know when it does.
Until next time...
